ends up with a common denominator,
and they form themselves into a group.
Katulad ng mga tambay sa may basketball court tuwing hapon.
Pag summer na, may teams na sila with matching uniform.
Pati ang mga gamers sa Internet.
Sa tagal nilang magkakasamang maglaro,
nagiging "clan" sila at lumalaban sa ibang "clan" to earn rewards.
When people share their status, pics, notes, or videos in Facebook,
you can know what kind of people they are
in the way they comment or what they like.
Or just by the sheer volume of what they post.
In a big group of friends, there are mini circles of friendships inside
just like in any class, office, or organization.
There are some things that can only be shared comfortably in a small circle.
In Tagalog:
'May mga tsismis na with current BFF's lang nila napaguusapan'
From geeks to fashionistas; sports fanatics to bookworms;
party people to homebodies; the singles and the couples;
the loud people and the meek ones.
There's always a classification,
a group you choose to be in consciously or not.
And when inevitable changes in life come,
so with the relationships inside the group.
Sometimes this is when people gets hurt.
I've seen years of friendships turn sour
because the "membership criteria" does not fit their friend anymore.
'You've changed. You are not the person we knew before.'
'Di ka na nakikisama.'
Worse is, when the people whom you called friends
gang up with new friends and begin to ostracize or malign you
behind your back because you changed.
This, what I think is unnecessary.
Yes, people have to relate, to be in a circle of friends.
It's a human need, to belong socially.
But relationships are always going to change.
In fact, CHANGE is the only thing that is constant in our lives.
It is the only way we will grow up.
If people change, so do connections, teams, friendships, and groups.
It is a natural thing.
So don't be afraid to become different from what they call normal.
Don't be afraid to get out of your circle of comfort friends.
Explore.
Discover.
If you think your current circle of friends
keeps you from being a better person,
you can choose to get out.
Don't mind what they say. Focus on the improvement.
Don't burn bridges, you'll need them at some point in time.
Besides, a friend can only be considered faithful
if he remains to be a friend beyond the changes through time.
And that's what you call a real BFF.
Friend, embrace change.
But let me add to the argument...
Change has to be for the better.
And go through it with joy.
When you start to accept and appreciate change,
then you will realize that life is not so hard afterall.
Didoy
